First and foremost, I want to apologize for such the long wait between posts. I don’t even have a good excuse for why it’s taken me this long to finish this topic, but I got plenty of messages and emails about finishing it, so I will make sure to do that right now! Here we go:

#3 – Humble
To a certain extent, every man has and needs his male “ego.” In other words, a man needs to be confident in himself enough to be courageous when he needs to be. But “ego” is one thing that can easily get out of control and become selfishness.


I don’t know why so many girls/women go for the so-called “bad boys” that need everyone around them to know how big and tough they are. From my perspective, those are the most insecure, unstable kind of guys there are.

A humble man is confidant in who God has made him, but he doesn’t need to constantly prove himself to be manly all the time. He’s also wise enough to know that he doesn’t know everything, and is willing to lean from those much wiser then him, and often times that could be you!

This type of guy is willing to consider you and others above himself, and his willing to serve, not just be served. I’m not saying a guy should be a “pushover” either. Being humble doesn’t mean the same thing as weak. It takes a much stronger man to be humble enough to put others before himself, then an arrogant man who looks at himself as an almighty king of the jungle that needs to intimidate those around him just to make himself feel like a man.


#2 – A Good Leader

A man is called by God to be the “head of his household,” and with that position comes an enormous responsibility. A good leader always keeps his followers in mind. He will take the responsibility for caring for, providing for, and protecting those following him. A Good leader needs to have clear direction as to where he is going, and making sure that it’s in the best interest of those following.

Take a look at how guys are leading those that follow them in their lives. What kind of example are they setting for those that are coming behind them? Is anyone following them at all? If no one is following, then they aren’t a leader at all. If people do follow them, where are they being led?

You should be confident of where the guy that you could potentially get married to is going in life. He should be the person that helps you move forward in every area of life, especially your spiritual life. And if he’s not leading you towards Christ, where you may have life, and have it more abundantly… then he’s leading you to death. (sorry that was such a dark way to end this topic.)


#1 – A Good Follower (of Christ).

A man can’t lead, until he first knows how to follow. Men follow a lot of things. We follow sports teams, the latest news, and sometimes even girls we think are cute at the mall (kinda creepy I know). But ultimately you have to know that the guy you are called to follow, is following Christ.


To illustrate my point, I often tell this story:

One day when my son was about 4 or 5 years old, we had just gotten home from running errands. It was January in Michigan. There were a few inches of snow on the ground, and the walkway hadn’t yet been shoveled. I got out of the car and walked up to the house to unlock the door. But as I looked back at my son, I realized he was taking a little longer then normal to get to our front door.

My son hated to get snow in his boots, and the snow was much too high for him to walk in without stepping into, almost, knee high (for him) drifts of snow. So what he was doing was stretching out his legs as far as he could, to walk in my footsteps. Of course his legs weren’t quite long enough to match my stride, and he would fall from time to time as he tried to walk. But just by looking at him walking, I could tell that he was trying his best to walk like his father.


I tell that story because we can see the same thing in our walk with God. Just by looking at the way we live our lives, you should easily see that we are stretching ourselves to walk the way our Jesus walked.

A perfect guy that never messes up doesn’t exist. But the type of guy that you can trust to lead you in a relationship is a guy that just by looking at his life, you can tell that he wants to walk in the footsteps of Jesus.

Ok, in my last few blogs, I spent the time going through all the things that I look for in a girl. So for this blog, it’s only fair for me to turn the tables around and make a top 5 list of things that I think girls should look for in a guy. Only this time, I’ll start from 5 and work my way to number 1. I’ll do this one again in 3 parts too. So here we go:

#5 – A Good Reputation
A mans reputation is like his credit report that you need to check before you invest any of your time into him. I wouldn’t trust a guy that tells you not to listen to what other people say about him. Guys know how to say the right things to get what they want, especially to girls, but actions speak louder then words, and it is highly likely that the way he was yesterday is how he will be tomorrow.

Now I’ve heard the excuse “people can change” a million times. But I don’t believe that. I do however believe that God can change a person. So there is hope for a guy that has a bad reputation, to change and build a new one. But it’s something that takes time. Just because a person says that they have changed, doesn’t mean they actually have. Until he has the track record to prove that he has changed, then his words aren’t worth much.

4 – A Hard Worker
Ok, I pretty much covered this one in my previous blog, so you will have to go back and read that one to get the more details. But no girl, or anyone for that matter, wants to be around a lazy guy.

Every area of life requires self-discipline, sacrifice, and hard work. Girls should evaluate a guys’ work ethic as it relates to his job, career, schoolwork, and even more so in his relationships. Finding a balance of all of those things can be tricky, and it takes time and maturity. I’m not saying that a guy has to have all of these things together before you give him the time of day, but it should be evident that he’s got a good work ethic, and understands how to put things in proper priority.

This is something I can go on and on about, but for this blog, I’m trying to keep things short.

Stay tuned for the next part. But in the mean time, leave your thoughts, comments and suggestions down below.

Ok, this is my last installment of this series of my “Top 5 things I look for in a girl.” If you missed the last 2, then make sure to go back and read those ones too. So here are the final 2:

#4 - Morals (Uncompromising to Gods Word)
Someone that has strong morals and is not willing to compromise them is also someone that I know I can trust. We hear stories all the time of girls that will compromise their morals (especially in regards to sexual sin) in order to make a guy happy; but in actuality, that is the exact opposite of what would make me happy.

It’s much more attractive to me when a girl is not willing to budge on her morals for anyone… not even me. It shows her dedication to God, and His position in her life. If He is the one in the lead of her life, and she is submissive to His authority, then I will not have to worry about her compromising things in our relationship.


#5 – Wisdom
Wisdom is the most beautiful attribute that I find in a woman. Sure, every guy wishes to have a super model, movie star, or pop singer as a wife… but in reality, physical beauty doesn’t last, but a women that has wisdom increases in beauty with every gray hair that grows and every wrinkle that forms on her face.

In my experience, some of the prettiest girls on the out side, have been some of the ugliest ones on the inside, and it doesn’t take long to see them as they really are. So for me, I look way past make up, dress size, and fashion to find what the real heart of a girl is when getting to know them.

Most of the time you don’t even have to look further then her facebook status’s to see what she is made of. A girl that is always caught up in drama, gossip, or always has something negative to say is NOT the type that I find attractive, no matter what they look like.

Wisdom is making good judgments by applying ones knowledge. It’s one thing for a girl to read the bible, go to church, and know all the right things to say, vs. actually applying all of that knowledge in real life. So someone that knows the right things to do, and actually does them competes my top 5 list of things I look for in a girl.

Please share you thoughts, ideas, questions or comments down below.

Ok, lets continue with my list of Top5 things I look for in a girl.

#2 – Hard Working Team Player
Being a hard worker and a great team player is one of the most admirable traits that I notice about a woman. I look at marriage like a team sport, so when getting to know someone of the opposite sex, I need to determine what kind of teammate they are going to be.

I grew up playing football, and I think that experience taught me more about people in general then any other experience in my life. You really get to know what a person is made of when you get them out on the field. The best teammates were not always the biggest, strongest, or fastest. The best teammates, in my opinion, are the ones that inspired everyone around them to be better. It was the guys that showed up for practice early, and ran every drill with all their heart. The guys that hit the weight room and encouraged everyone else to lift just a little extra, and patted them on the back (and sometimes butt) when they gave it all they had. Those were the type of people that were just great to be around, and even more so then that, when it was game time, you knew that you could trust them to have your back because they were willing to sacrifice themselves for the good of the team.

I’m NOT saying that I need a women that is going to go out and work to provide for the family, BUT I do need someone who is willing and able to do whatever it takes to for better or for worse.


#3 – A Servant
I would say that my personal “love language,” according to the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, is “Acts of Service.”

There is something extremely attractive about a woman that is selflessly willing to serve others. It’s a sign of humility, sacrifice, and true love (from my perspective).

Now, in spite of my YouTube video, I don’t expect for a wife to serve me pizza rolls while I sit on the couch all day long, or clean up after my mess. I’m talking about being a servant, not a slave… there is a big difference. But at the same time, there is a sliver of truth in those statements.

This goes hand in hand with my #2 trait, because ultimately I am looking for someone that would be a good helper. Someone that I don’t have to drag along with me through life, but someone that is headed the same direction. I don’t need a woman to do things for me, I just am looking for someone eager to help me to do what God has called me to do better.

Geeze, I really didn’t know what I was getting into when I decided to do this list. Because I am realizing that this list is starting to seem like I’m a very selfish person. I apologize for that. For now I’m trying to stay on topic without going off on a bunny trail of traits that I need to have to be a suitable husband. But I’ll get into that another time.

Leave your comments, questions, insights, and opinions etc. below. Tell me what types of things you are looking for in the opposite sex.

I’ve been going through a Song of Solomon bible study with a group of friends for the past few weeks, and each week we are talking pretty openly about relationships. This is a topic that I honestly try my best to avoid because it can make for some of the most awkward moments you can ever experience in life LOL. But if I am honest with myself, I do like the idea of finding a women that I could spend the rest of my life with.

Being a single guy, I frequently get asked questions like “what’s your type?” or “what are you looking for in a girl?” It’s hard to answer those questions, because they seem so superficial. Of course I want a girl that’s attractive, but the older I get, the more I understand that youthful outer beauty truly DOESN’T last forever. I’ve always heard people say that, but I’m really starting to understand that fact now. So in light of Valentines Day coming up, I wanted to just give you my top 5 list of things I am looking for in my future wife. It may get a little long winded so I am gonna break this blog down in segments. So lets just start with #1!

#1 – She needs to be Respectful
The number one thing that most men want in life more then food, or water, money, or fame, power, or even sex, is RESPECT. I personally don’t get angry very much, but the one thing that can get under my skin very quickly is being disrespected. So in looking for a wife, respect is at the top of my list.

When getting to know a potential life-long partner, I take note of how respectful she is in other areas of her life. Does she respect God? Does she respect her parents? Does she respect her boss at work, her spiritual leaders, her friends, herself? Does she respect those in positions of authority/leadership? Does she respect them even when they are not always respectable? I look at those areas of her life to get a good idea of how she will respect me if I were to be her husband.

*** Ok, I think now would be a good time to note that I also recognize that respect needs to be a two-way street in a marriage, or any relationship for that matter. So before anyone gets too defensive, just know that I realize that I have just as much responsibility to respect my future wife as she does me… but I’ll write about things from that angle another time. For now, I’m just talking about what I’m looking for in a wife… ok? ***

There is an old saying that “in order to get respect you need to give respect” and there is a lot of truth to that. But I’d rather say “in order to get respect, you ought to be respectable.”

In light of that, I also ask myself if she is a respectable person? My idea of a respectable person is someone that is loving, honest, is trustworthy, has integrity, and is loyal. Is she the type of person that I could respect?

Am I being a little judgmental? ABSOLUTELY! I am talking about a person I am going to lay down my life for! It’s pretty important that I make a wise judgment about this person before I make that type of commitment wouldn’t you agree??

Ok, I’ll continue with part 2 in the very near future. Leave your comments, questions, insights, and opinions etc. below. Tell me what types of things you are looking for in the opposite sex.

Well, this is my first blog that I'm writing on here. I feel like I haven't had a real website/blog for myself ever. I've always started them, but it always got a little complicated, or I was waiting on graphic designers to get back with me, or some other force in the universe somehow stopped me from actully getting it done the way I wanted to. BUT FINALY I found and eazy way to make a website myself, that is simple and easy to keep updated and do stuff like blog and all that jazz.

Anyway, I got a lot of new stuff that I'm working on right now including this website, new music, videos, tours, etc. So I'm super excited about 2012 and what it has to hold. I wish had the time to actually be all insightful and give you something deep to read and think about, but I just wanted to write this little blurb as my fist blog just to take up space as I'm still trying to fill content on this new site.

Thanks for reading, I promise that this will get better over time.

Much Love,
George